in december we traveled as a family of three to new york city to visit friends.
i started being an anxious, nervous wreck mama around three months of age which lined up perfectly with us leaving on a twelve and a half hour road trip. but, somehow, we also entered into a perfect window of sleep for baby jack. he would give us five to six hours at a time, wake up to nurse, go back down for another four or five hours. this was absolutely God helping a new, terrified wreck of a mama out. because since we’ve been home, jt hasn’t slept longer than two hours at a time, round the clock. but for this sweet little trip, he was a perfect angel baby and that’s just how we’ll remember this trip forever and ever. even if he never sleeps again, which i’m starting to think will be the case, we had a magical winter trip with our sweet surprise boy.
my life of travel was good before. as you all know i’ve told tales of ethan burt’s greatness. his surprise hotel stays and coffee shop finds. the sweetness and goodness has just multiplied now that ethan has his son. ethan is what i would call a Scary Driver. the kind that knows the rules of the road and can drive quickly safely, but is Very Angry when the other drivers don’t know how to use cars and lives for the thrill of making his wife gasp in terror while he cackles and is proud of himself. he made time for all the extra stops that baby needed. we were very thankful i could travel longer than twenty minutes before needing to pee. that was a huge success! and jack made it all the way to the big city doing very well in his carseat until exactly when we hit busy nyc traffic. we were one hour away from our destination and jack had Had It. he screamed and wailed. i even tried to nurse him while still in the car seat because a friend told me she’d done that with her boys on a long journey. but even that wouldn’t work. the stop and go traffic and the sensing that we were nearly there but never actually getting there made him lash out like we all want to when it takes an hour to travel twenty minutes in any city. but we made it and the fun began!
i really wanted to go to nyc this time around just to be in our friend’s apartment and make food with them. they are a very in-love couple who loves food and beverage and gathering and cozy nights in. just our couple! they have a charming apartment right in manhattan. it was a dream come true! we made the meals, they treated us to great great food, we treated them to my banana bread and shared our favorite dark chocolate with them. the two guys moved jack in his little co-sleeper from living room to bedroom as many times as was needed throughout the trip, depending on what room the adults wanted to be in. jack slept like a champ and behaved like a perfect cherub while out and about. the only downside was how difficult it was to get baby and stroller in and out and around the tiny nyc shops and restaurants. i will have to do better research on how city parents do it before our next trip. we really didn’t do a lot of touristy things. we were really there for the people (and the food, did i tell you they are AMAZING chefs?!). it was also very cold. we had lovely walks and got to see beautiful nyc buildings. that was enough for us! i already am planning our next trip where we can stay longer, jack will be bigger and chunkier and able to enjoy himself more as well as us getting to enjoy him seeing new things and grasping for all the things. i hope to go in the spring or fall. (the budget says HAHA to a spring visit so probably fall) i’d love to just be in central park for hours. it was magical in winter but without any snow and the trees being dead, i felt like it didn’t do it justice.
oh, and the biggest joy of all? the biggest blessing? trading photos with our people. we took theirs, (we got to professionally take their engagement and wedding photos. this is actually how we became close friends! well, that was the start. the time and effort and love and intentionality from there is what built the closeness of hearts) and then she took ours. you guys, i am blessed beyond belief with these family photographs. i will refrain from posting them all right now because I SOMEHOW HAVE GREAT SELF-CONTROL TODAY, but i will be using them in future posts so you’ll be able to eventually see them all. the above photo shows you my favorite four in canvas form, hanging above mine and ethan’s Grow Old Together chairs. we already feel like we could squeeze four more on this wall without it being too much. my favorite thing lately is that since we’ve decided to finally start printing our photos and putting them up, ethan burt is getting just as ridiculous as me with wanting to order more and print every day photo of our lives because we are obsessed with this sweet boy and newly parenthood season. BEST.
we decided not to do our west coast trip this year. which was a really hard decision because we miss our people so deeply it hurts. but since coming home from nyc we all got horribly sick for about three weeks which was the Living Worst. and jack decided he was DONE-ZO with any good sleep so i’ve been ragged and running on empty, having more pain than i can manage and ethan has been saving us all here at home.
i also got some more testing done and found many levels of heavy metal toxicity in my blood. so we are working with a doctor to see about treatments. i can’t do a lot of it while breastfeeding and we’d love to breastfeed for the first year. and with wanting to try for another baby relatively soon, i wouldn’t be able to do treatments while pregnant either, so we are having to make some decisions and time some things out. what i am not looking forward to the most is all the dental work to safely remove and refill all my mercury fillings. i’ve had them since i was a kid, so the mercury has been leaching from my fillings for most of my life. EXCELLENT.
so stay tuned for all the talks about health and wellness. it’s going to continue to be a bumpy ride.